0:00 What should happen or what has happened when you and a friend like the same person? >> Why do you go like this and just don't say anything? >> Yeah. >> The suspense. >> I've done this. >> What happened? >> I've done this. I've done this. A very good friend of mine, we worked at Ruby Tuesday's and you know the studs that work at Ruby Tuesday's cuz it doesn't even exist anymore, that salad bar. But she liked a guy and I like also kind of liked him, but she like expressed that she really did like like him. And then I ended up dating him. >> Oh, after you knew she liked him? >> Mhm. And we dated for like a while. >> What's a while? How long did you guys date for? >> That's better. Isn't that better? That's better. >> better? >> Versus just like ████ him once? >> Yeah. I cuz if you ████ him once, you're just intentionally like
0:50 >> That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying. >> Yeah. But yeah, no, we like dated dated and then it even so like 2 weeks into dating >> You invited her to the wedding? >> No, I got I got pulled over for a DUI with her in the car and we were on our way to his house and she she caved. I was like, "No, it just smells like weed in here. We're not smoking weed, it just smells." But she caved and said that like we were smoking weed and stuff. So I was like, "I wonder if that was her like get back." >> Little maliciousness. Oh. >> think so, but maybe. >> So walk us through how the >> No, no. What? >> Walk us through the beginnings of like so how did she mention she liked him? >> It definitely was just like very casual and she's not someone who like dates a bunch anyway. So that's why I feel a big big guilt about it. >> It was monumental that she expressed interest in this guy. >> Yeah, but I also liked him. He was cute and he was funny and >> feel like you liked him more than she did?
1:40 >> Um possibly. Possibly. She could have liked him more, but >> Okay, describe describe this guy. How cool is this guy? >> that cool. He's not that cool. I'm giving him way too much credit. He's not that >> Also, how do how do girls >> It was like, you know when you work in a restaurant, like you all just you know >> But two chicks like him? >> His sister worked there. His sister dated someone that worked there. Like it was a whole >> Proximity is very is a is a good one. >> Yeah. >> Also though, how do girls like tell each other, you know, like cuz guys sometimes just be like, "Ooh, tap tap." And that's it. >> Oh, like you're calling dibs? >> Yeah, you know, it might be that basic at that age. >> What were the words she used to express this to you? >> I guess normally be like, you know, like Josh is really cute or like something like that. I His name is not Josh, but I'm throwing out a random name out there. >> It's like Josh Ryan, two first names. One of those. >> Josh Ryan. Was it two first names? No. Um but yeah, so she just told me that
2:30 like she thought he was cute or something like that. And then I remember being like, "Oh my god, I also think that he's cute." >> Oh, and you didn't say anything to her? >> No. >> Okay, I think >> But he had showed interest towards me though, too. Yeah, so that's what I was like >> Yeah, what was the interest? How did he do it? >> Good question. >> He covered your shifts for you? >> I don't know. >> [laughter] >> I don't remember. We were really good drinking buddies, so I'm sure drinking was involved somehow. >> So you'd actually spent more time one-to-one with him than she had? >> No, cuz we all worked together. We spent a lot of time together, yeah. >> It was always in a group. >> Was it one of those things where it's like she was sitting between you guys cuz she was trying to speak game, but behind you guys were holding hands? >> No, god, no. No, I would never be that like deceitful, malicious. No, it was just like, "I also like him, too." >> So did the news that you guys were an item get broken to her by you or did she
3:20 just observe it and go, "Ouch, I see what's going on." >> I wonder if I kept it secret for a minute. >> It sounds like you did. >> I wouldn't say I'm like we're going back, but like I'm like I think I think I may have like yeah, like secretly got to know him a little bit. And I'm like, "Hey, so I've been hanging out with" yeah, I think that might have been how it was. >> How'd she take it? >> got her the job there. Does that make it any better? >> Okay, so there's seniority. Okay, so >> [screaming] >> I get first dibs, dude. I get the first ride. >> That's how Johnny Rockets was, right? Yeah, yeah. That's how we dated. >> [laughter] >> Seniority based. So how did she take it when she she knew that? >> never like pissed or anything, but she may have ratted me out for a DUI, so who knows? >> She could have internalized it. >> Could have internalized it. But yeah, nothing outwardly. She might have been giving me like a okay. Like but that that would have been like the extent of that. >> Right, okay. And and like now that you've gone through this experience, how would you
4:11 recommend other people handle this situation? Or do you feel like everything that you did was sort of like on par for what you should do? >> I would do like a if you genuinely like the same person and there's two of you and one of them, it's whoever they gravitate towards. You know what I mean? Like >> Oh, so it's like real every every woman for themselves. Like it's like two people calling the same dog. >> Yeah, like come here boy, come here. Yeah, I got bacon. Yeah, yeah, yeah. >> But you're not willing to like sabotage their come here, you know, that like you ain't trying to like jump in their lane. >> No, I wouldn't. I wouldn't yeah, yeah, yeah. Start ████ on the field or something. No, yeah, I wouldn't. >> That part's super important cuz I was in a like a weird not like the same person, but me and my best friend, the other guy that has this tattoo with at the time, we talked to chicks and we got numbers of these chicks separately and then both of us thought it would be better if we switched. But because we got
5:02 >> Traded your progress? >> Because for one person [laughter] cuz once you take over, but and and but we didn't because we're like oh because you worked so hard to get that number that we both just failed it. And the reason why we had an inkling of why it would work, one day me and this dude were kicking at my house and we're both talking to our respective chicks. We're like hey, let's just switch phones. I'm like all right, cool. We switched phones. I talked to the chick that he talked to and then he was talking to her. We both had like immediate two, three hour long conversations. >> So, the chemistry was right. >> So, that idea came from like what if we just switched? And they're like nah, that's weird. And then both of ours just fizzled out. And we're like ████ we should have totally switched. >> So, you missed the opportunity. >> You guys didn't actually switch. >> Didn't. We just for s████ and giggles we're like hey, the chick you're talking to, let me talk to them." We just switched phones. >> Right. >> And then but the conversations was so
5:53 ████ cool. >> It's like a band switching instruments and then the song is over. >> [laughter] >> Well, it's like the band switching instruments and the song is a ████ banger and I'm like, "Give me my guitar back." And then it goes back to being all lame and ████ >> [laughter] >> It was like that. >> But at least in that scenario you both get somebody out of it, right? There's it's two for two. >> We were so I guess territorial. >> It fizzled out. [laughter] >> Yeah, we were like I guess we're territorial or like so prideful of that number that we didn't want to switch. We worked so hard. But it was it totally should have been the other way. >> Isn't the three hours of like deep conversation way more hard work? >> Did the chicks ever express interest that they wanted to switch? >> Well, they don't know about each other. Like they don't like like the chick like let's say I'm talking to this chick. >> I thought this was like two friends two friends. >> Right right right right right. >> This chick just thinks I'm passing the phone to Nick. She doesn't know that Nick is also talking to another chick and then Nick's
6:43 going to give that phone to me. You know what I mean? So they don't The chicks don't know you. >> They don't know they're in a square dance. >> They don't know each other and they don't know they're getting switched. >> They're doing a do-si-do. >> But when you're two stupid guys living in a house, you're just doing dumb ████ all the time. >> I was for it at first, now I'm against it. >> [laughter] >> Like let me ask you if you had a situation where two guys both really liked you and they're friends and they go, "Hayley, why don't you just tell us like what to do about this?" >> Yeah, I'd pick one. >> Don't they make movies about this? >> Yeah, yeah, it's like yeah, there's movies. There's ████ ton of ████ ton of movies about this. >> Have you ever been in a situation where you kind of liked both guys almost equally? >> No. >> Never? >> Never. >> They're always just a one-and-done like >> Yeah, if there's someone I'm >> You never spun plates? >> Uh >> Spun? >> I mean there's options for sure. There's options out there. It's like, "Oh, this one doesn't work out. I know this one wants to."
7:33 Uh but no, there's never been like a specific like two people pursuing you you got to pick one. I don't think I've ever had that happen. Mhm. Mhm. Have you? >> I'm He has. Yeah. That's his world. He has too many. >> Anthony will have >> He's like three plates more. >> four plates and he's spinning all of them so hard. He's like, "I actually proposed to all four and they all said yes. What do I do?" >> They're all down. >> [laughter] >> Mormon. [clears throat] >> One slight instance that I've shared here before where it was that weird period in high school where I had just got with my girlfriend after we had both asked other people to our proms. >> Oh. >> So it's one of those like you don't really know and then it's all but we got to get a prom date by the time cuz you get like three months in advance. >> Right. >> And then like right before prom we
8:23 finally got together so then but we're at prom and then uh she's she's like uh on the like the what the what the prom queen court court >> to ask the prom king. The prom king knows all the terms. >> court or whatever >> the court Shut up, dude. That was like so long ago. That was like 20 years ago, man. So she's there with just another dude. >> Yeah. >> And but then >> So you guys kept your prospective dates? >> Yeah, but then I'm there also with a girl that I wanted to be with for years. >> Dude, the switcheroosky. That's what I'm saying. Dude, the switcheroosky, dude. >> It wasn't a phone. We were in person. >> Dude, the in person switcheroosky. >> [laughter] >> There wasn't another person to switch with. >> Who did she The other chick go with? >> The other guy is not my friend. [laughter] He's a random. >> I kind of had that happen at prom. So my prom my like boyfriend broke up with me right before. So like week of I asked like a friend to go to prom with me. But the friend I went to prom with he was like super into very ironically my second cousin and I went to like high
9:13 school together and he was super into her. So when we got to prom he was with her the whole entire time. Like we pretty much like took photos and then he went and hung out with her and I was like All right, okay, cool. Whatever. Like it's fine. >> Post breakup, this is totally fine. >> Fine, yeah. I'm pretty sure she had another date there, too. Like yeah. >> Couldn't chat with that guy? >> No. I mean I >> The switcheroosky. >> man. I should have grabbed her date, yeah. No. I was floating around having a good time. We're all ████ faced. >> You couldn't have done that thing where you know, like when they're on the dance floor, you go, "Mind if I cut in?" You couldn't have You couldn't have said, "Mind if she cuts in?" >> [laughter] >> So, I just ditched the two girls and the guy's like by himself like, "What the ████ [laughter] happened?" >> You twirl her out and you twirl her in. >> So, I just ditched the release? [laughter] >> Yeah, like Marie Antoinette. >> I just got a new girlfriend, but I've been chasing this girl for like years.
10:05 >> It was one of those weird things where I was like, "I'm not going to do anything wrong because that's the wrong thing to do, but I'm in extremely conflicted." >> Yeah. >> You know? And I'm like, "Dude, all right, whatever. I guess this is it. This is how you're supposed to be." >> Did you ever resolve it? Are you still chasing? >> [laughter] >> Anthony is a have his cake and eat it guy, bro. You have it all, huh? >> He does. This guy has it all. Some of us had to lose them, right? >> That twirl move though, mid dance, if you do it right, ooh. Ooh, I remember at like a dance and it probably was high school, but like oh, what was that song? Grab somebody sexy, tell them hey. They're like hey, come over. And I was just like dancing doing my own thing and this guy I was like friends with during that part, grab somebody sexy, tell them hey. He literally did that and to this day I'm like that is one of the hottest things that has ever happened in the history of life, dude. Yeah. Take some
10:55 line dancing classes or something, freaking >> This guy gives classes. >> Yeah, spin somebody around, dude. I would have done it at the wrong part of Pitbull's verse. >> [laughter] >> Me working hard, picture that with a Kodak. >> Hey, baby. >> [laughter] >> I don't want to dance anymore, actually. Oh, is that the wrong part? Hold on, wait. Come back later. Come back later when the chorus happens. Damn, that is really nice timing. You seem like the guy that would do stuff like that, see? >> Brother. >> He's smooth. >> [laughter] >> I teach it. >> Anthony is smooth, man. >> Did I remember this correctly? Didn't you have something sort of similar, a little bit? Didn't like some other dude like Tiff like when you first >> Yeah, a little bit. A little bit. And he was he was a friend of mine. And he was trying to holler. >> So wait, just for context, he married his high school sweetheart. He's only been with one woman his whole life. He's the best guy in the room. >> Literally one vagina ever.
11:46 >> Best dude in this room. >> But he had sex thousands of times though. >> Yeah, that's valid point. >> Thousands. >> Valid point. >> Thanks for having my back out there, bro. These guys are leaving me out to ████ dry, man. >> Consistently active. >> Thousands. >> Hundreds even. >> [laughter] >> There was another He was a buddy of mine. I remember he like was liking her and he was trying to like cuz he knew we were hanging out. And he would try to like embarrass me in front of her all the time. So then I was like, you know what? So I I just was upset. It wasn't cuz I was like ████ brave or anything. I was just pissed off at this moment where I pulled him to the side and I was like, "Hey, man, what the ████ is your problem?" Like I was like, "What the ████ is this? Like what are you doing?" And he was like he's like he's like, "You know I I like her blah blah." And I was like, >> "Okay, but you know I'm talking to her, right?" Like it was it was a it was a thing like that. And then
12:36 he just was like, "Whatever, dude." And then he just kind of like left. And that's that's all that happened. >> [laughter] >> That's all that happened. >> So Theo >> No, and and then he kind of just stopped oh kind of hanging around. >> So you don't think he's out somewhere going like, "Man, this fool married my girl." >> Maybe. >> [laughter] >> He could have. He could have, bro. I don't know. >> Other women. >> [laughter] >> I'm like, "F███, dude. I have sex with only one." I got two, Nick. I've got two. Yeah. He's probably got a lot more than that. >> So it wasn't really like a deep-seated like hitting him personally kind of thing. It was more like he was just lonely trying to get what he could get. >> don't know. I truly don't know. >> Wow. And he was your buddy? >> Yeah, he was a buddy of mine. But he was kind of a dude that like I've known him for a while. >> Was he at your wedding? >> No. We were friends, but he would always kind of do ████ where I'm like, "You ain't no friend of mine, son." You know, like I got to keep my eye on you. Like like, "Oh, you're you're one of those guys." You know? >> Trying to step on you to get to the
13:26 yeah, okay. >> Yeah, yeah, yeah. and he was and all the times I spent with my like all these formative years I've known this dude, he'd always do that to me. And I was always like so when we like we went to sixth grade, he did that to me and I was like, oh, interesting. >> Okay, it sounds like this man's actually jealous of you. That's what I think. Yeah, that's what I think the starting point is here. Was he pursuing her before you started talking to her only after? >> Maybe after. >> See, see. >> Oh, ████ you might be good. >> Maybe he wants to be with you. >> Yeah, maybe he wants to wear your skin. >> Still taking applications, dude. Let's go. >> I kind of have had that happen similarly though. I I now I recall like I I dated someone who I was a I was friends with them for like a year prior and then we started dating and he like had to gather the courage to ask me out and someone who he was like talking to about gathering the courage and egging him on after we started actually dating, that guy then sneaky tried to like ask me out
14:17 on a date. And I was like, ooh, interesting. >> And you know you knew he knew? The confidant asked you out. >> Yeah, so I knew. Yeah. I knew that this guy was hyping him up. >> Betrayal. >> But he he like presented the situation as if like it was like somebody he was like, oh, this event SB is da da da. I was like, yeah, I'll ████ go. And then I got there and I was like, this is just dudes hanging out at Topgolf. This is not anything that you said it was going to be. >> He said it was like a meeting. Like like a work meeting. >> It was like, oh, I want you to meet these people. I was like, no, you don't. Yeah, yeah. So sneaky sneaks. >> Sneaky. >> All right, let us know what you guys would do if you and a buddy like the same person. How do you navigate that? How do you get off with as good of a result as Nick did with his buddy who liked him? Uh please let us know. >> [laughter] >> Find me. I'm quite lonely these days.
15:08 So lonely, in fact.
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