0:00 Yo, I was just talking with Nina because obviously I'm trying to raise this kid and I'm like, "Yo, our kids, this generation are going to be the whitest Asians alive." Like, think about it. I agree. All my cousins and stuff like that had to get pulled to like Chinese school and that's why they're all fluent and stuff like that. I'm looking at Nino who's Filipino, doesn't really speak to. I'm Chinese Vietnamese, doesn't really speak Chinese or Vietnamese well or anything like that. So, our kids not going to really speak anything. I'm like, where's the Asians just going to go away? >> We're making Ryan Hagawas. That's what [laughter] we're making. >> Yeah. >> You're not You're not going to um teach any Chinese, Vietnamese, nothing. >> So, I think it's all going to be relative vocab to the grandparents. [snorts] >> Oh, >> that makes sense. It's not going like, hey, go to Vietnamese school and learn the the full language and be able to have conversations, but it's going to be like understand your grandparents. >> Do the grandparents speak to them in the
0:51 language? >> Try to get them like brainwashed. >> A little bit of both. A little English and a little Vietnamese. >> Practical. Like, obviously, it would be practical for me to teach. I mean, it it makes logical sense for me to teach Taika Chinese. But when Taika was like years one and two, uh Gio's mom was around. So when they spoke to him in Spanish and that's what he understood, I started speaking to him Spanish even though it's completely illogical to but it was just practical versus uh in California it's fairly logical. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But I but that's because But if Tiger learns either Chinese or Spanish, she's set later. If my kid learns Vietnamese or Tagalog, we're still going to be ████ jungle Asians. practical within the home. >> I would love to teach him Chinese, but it's just not practical cuz me and Gio don't even speak to each other in Chinese. >> It ain't going to stick. >> It's just not going to stick cuz cuz like uh so Nikki when um she was born her parents had to work both of them. So this Greek lady like raised her
1:42 basically and Nikki used to speak fluent Greek >> and then she just completely forgot all of it when like once the she was no longer nanny by this person. That's true. You're not using it. Yeah. >> From a lot of Chinese kids how they have Mexican nannies and they would speak Spanish and then they they can like understand it but they can't speak enough. >> My nephew right now if my nephew I'm like hey throw that away. He can't do it. If I go hey basa >> walks right little Chinese boy walks right over. >> What the hell? >> Why are you guys going to deprive your kids of culture? >> That's the whole point. You're not trying to You're trying to be practical and then it's like the same thing. Me and Nina don't speak an Asian language to each other. So it's it's like how do you enforce something that like won't even be used at home because you know so where whereas and language is such a huge part
2:32 of culture but then all the other stuff uh you can still do without it like changing your life in an awkward way like me and you will never speak Vietnamese or Tagali to each other fluently. That's just not going to work. >> So we have to find all the other cultural things to try and imbue and like hold on to it in some way. Now, my kids growing up as a Asian-American who's trying to learn Chinese, Vietnamese, and Filipino culture, it's it's diluted. >> Yeah, it's even right. >> Yeah. It's funny cuz it's not it's just not that important to me, which makes me sound hella sellout, but like it's not I didn't grow up with that Filipino of a culture. >> Yeah. >> We I grew up Filipino American, and that's the what I'm going to pass down. And I think Yeah. And I think when it comes to my extended family, like my daughter will probably get a really good sense of the family values that we had, not necessarily the Tagalogness of it.
3:23 That's not going to be there because it's a whole generation down now. Like all of my daughter's aunts and uncles and cousins are all going to be American Filipinos. But then I think we've kept a really good hold on like the the family dynamic on how close we all try to be and how like we try to spend time with each other. And those are really good qualities, but it's just not going to be in Tagalog. It's not that big of a deal to me. I want all the positive things to be passed down and present, but it's going to be English and or an Australian accent. [laughter] Now, you know what I mean? It's not to me. I don't feel like if if she grows up and wants to search that culture and like learn about it on her own and do all this stuff, I think that's more legit than me putting it on to teach it. >> That's that's what I thought. >> You know what I mean? Like it's corny. >> It's like it's it's such bad knowledge. I'm not going to I'm not going to suddenly act like I'm from the islands
4:14 just to make sure she feels connected. It doesn't make sense. >> Yeah, that's what I thought, too, cuz I was like like I speak Chinese pretty well, but also that came with a ████ ton of trauma versus I'd rather it be the other way around where I was hella tight with my family and I don't speak Chinese. And in this day and age, like any random person can be extremely fluent in Chinese in two years. Like if you want to learn something, >> you really want to. Yeah. Yeah. >> Anybody can get fluent in a language in two years. you can go to that country and you can actually teach there and you can work there. So to me that's not I don't think that's the responsibility of the household anymore. That's more of I think like maybe I plant the seeds now and if he sees value in it he could always learn >> later on. But also, it's cuz it's a first generation immigrant dilemma because like I can kind of see both worlds where the Japanese American community there's six, seven generations in maybe eight now and then they're like
5:05 when you go to, you know, those like what do you call it like those events, no one speaks Japanese anymore, but they keep the culture. They still marry other Japanese, right? So that's the future of what Asian-America is. If you're in Hawaii, that's basically what the future of Asian-America will be if you keep marrying other Asians. So like but but there are commun like I think that's an example of like a lot of Japanese Americans still marrying Japanese. You're several generations in you know like you're a Hagawa. You you don't speak Japanese at all, [laughter] but you got Japanese tattoos. You got Japanese. Yeah. You're just a But you know how many hundreds of thousands of those guys are out there? Like there's a lot. He's like fifth generation American or something. >> He's one of those guys that Japan's trying to bring back into their country to populate. It's like come back, man. Like fifth generation guys, you guys got
5:56 to come back. You do need them. >> You guys all got your guns and your tats. Like claim the people, too. You know, >> it is funny how like, you know, my, you know, Nick, my wife's grandma is all Filipino, came from the the land. >> You could say that. >> Okay, fine. I don't know what that means. Um, but she but she moved here and she just wanted her kids to speak English and just wanted them to be American as hell and blend in and like they all they went in the Navy and all that kind of stuff, right? And then it's funny when like the kids go to school and then they're around their friends and their friends are like, "Oh yeah, I'm hella Asian. You're not even that Asian." And all this stupid ████ [laughter] and and then and then it turns into like, "Hey, how come you guys aren't raising us with all this Asian stuff?" Like, but the grandma is like, "I don't give a ████ about that. Like I just wanted you guys to come here and be Americans. >> It's just funny how the kids turn into like annoying little
6:46 >> They do. Yeah. That's why I feel like when when those same kids will like look at me and be like, "Oh, you don't know. You didn't go back and learn Tagalog. You didn't you don't go to the Philippines. You don't do all that s███." I'm like, "Dude, that's like to insinuate that we didn't also create a culture here." >> You know what I mean? Like Filipino Americans did make something else that may it may not be, you know, that, but like >> it is something. You know what I mean? There's a lot to pass down. There's a lot of like really good values and really like fun things. Lots of sense of humor to like pass down. That's very uh >> just don't pass down the food. [laughter] >> Filipino American food is much better. >> Yeah. An American thing though to like like fantasize about your roots because Hannah tells me that every single time, you know, people hear her accent and if they're white, they have to tell her
7:36 that they're Irish. They're like, "You know, I have family that's in in in the UK." And she's like, "I don't give a f███." But it's even a meme now. >> Call him German. She'll say, "You're ████ German. ████ you." [laughter] >> I know, right? >> It's good to learn your history, though. Like, it is good to have like knowledge about where how it was when your people first got here. You know, that is really like important to teach. But I think you can't be teaching that and then acting like you're them. >> You know what I mean? Like you're not them, dude. >> Don't worry. you don't have the same struggle. You didn't like emerge from the depths. But it happens quick though cuz if you think about like in one generation you're just fully American >> and then you just there's just like this amnesia. But a crazy phenomenon does happen though where um like whatever the culture >> they they're like in a time trap. So like let's say Vietnamese came in the
8:27 80s, they'll stay as Vietnamese people in the 80s where Vietnam would progress, change, the culture will change cuz like when uh Japanese FOBs come to the States, they go, oh my god, it's almost like I'm talking to my grandparents. So they look at our culture and go like, damn, you guys preserve ████ that we don't even do anymore. >> Yeah. >> So I'm like, damn, that's crazy. So it's like I'm sure this happens like you know with every immigrant culture cuz like when you go all over Texas there's hella German towns right all these German ████ words whatever little villages that look super German and no one there speaks German. >> Mhm. >> They'll eat like broughtwur but there's nobody there that speaks the language. And that happened in like two generations. It's even funnier too that some Filipino American cultures include so much ████ from other Asian cultures
9:19 like Chinese stuff. A lot of them dance in ████ Tahesian dance studios >> doing noina stuff like you know what I mean? It's it's all mixed up. So to be like oh no Filipinos got to stick with Filipino ████ like dude you don't you got Buddhas in your house. You're born in Pico Rivera. >> Yeah. [laughter] >> You know what I mean? It's like it's all like whatever you guys are creating here is also something. It's valid to me. Well, Filipino is like already MMA of Asians because of [laughter] how they got so much different influences, >> right? >> Yeah. >> I just love too when uh you know Nikki's aunts will be when they were warning me like, "Oh, wait till you come to our place. It's a little crazy white boy and all this s███." And [laughter] I get there and it's the ████ exact same ████ as my family. Exact same. [laughter] They're hella Americanized, right? >> They're all American. Just American. Like they're watching the Cowboys game.
10:09 They have like beers and and >> Filipinos specifically are very good at like being Americanized. >> That's what I think too. I think a lot of them are whether they try or not. And they think they're so ████ Filipino. >> I think all you ████ are Americanized as ████ though. Like I every single time I go to anywhere I'm not I'm never like what? Where am I? [laughter] >> Like like that. It's all like that. >> Who's the most Asian out of all of us? >> Bart. >> That's what I think. Bart, dude. probably because of my mom and her crazy ways. >> Well, also cuz you speak the most like for like you know. >> Yeah. But it's like it's a double-edged sword cuz you're also the guy who's like the most American out of all of us. >> Really? >> Yeah. He drives a ████ pickup. >> American maxing and [laughter] >> Yeah. Cuz you're actually really good at the language and you don't you don't I don't think you have anyone in your
10:59 family that's Americanized. >> Like they're all new immigrants. >> Yeah. I have to speak Chinese to almost most of my family. Chinese as ████ and also not Chinese as ████ at the exact same time. It's weird. >> So, what am I going to pass on to Taika? Some weird strange mix. >> Summerland culture. [laughter] >> The Robart and you. >> Yeah, dude. >> That's what he chooses. So, no, I want to pass on Summerland culture. [laughter] >> No, I'm passing down autism there. You you really you really do have to look a little closer at some of these people that are like trying to make you feel bad for not being cultural because a lot of them didn't build enough of an identity that they cling on to being Asian so ████ hard. It's like that's the only cool thing about them, you know? >> They haven't grown up yet. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> But it's like the whole activists in the streets and colonizing the sheets, you know, how they're like the only it's usually like they're the only Asian or like the token Asian within their white
11:49 friends and then that's their identity. >> Yeah. Like like how all the like how all the lib activists who say white men are evil married white guys. [laughter] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's that I think everyone's searching for like >> what it is. >> Yeah. If that's your if that's your strongest badge that you're Asian, that's that's ████ whack, dude. >> It's also like It's also like you guys are the majority of the world, brother. >> Yeah. >> Like there's billions of you. >> Roll a dice and you're going to be born in India or China. >> Yeah, man. >> Yeah. Yeah. Isn't it like a 80% chance of [laughter] human beings that could have been born in Asia? >> Yeah. >> It's ████ nuts. >> That's what they call the geographical dice. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. That's it. >> It is It is the the first generation immigrant complex though that is the most unique though. And and because we still exist in that generation, like
12:40 only after our generation dies would people be able to actually study and understand. >> [snorts] >> Like when you're talking about like the Vinnie people came in the ' 80s and like stayed that way, you're literally just talking about my parents. And so we're in the we're in the that weird like uh I'm I'm still getting yelled at by my mom for not speaking enough Vietnamese. >> Oh yeah. You know, >> it's like why aren't you speaking Vietnamese more to me or or to your kid or blah blah blah. I'm still getting that. >> But that's never going to even exist between me and my kid, which means that her kid will never that that >> will be ancient. The idea of me speaking a foreign language is like, damn, that fool's ████ fob. Like, you [laughter] know, >> on the flip side, like, Tao being assimilated to other cultures through food is way more fasttracked than me. Like, I didn't even try Korean food until I was like in high school. >> That's true. I think it's super freaking
13:32 ignorant that like all these people act like just because our generation of Asian-American like it moved from, you know, Asia to America. To act like that is the biggest difference between the generations is really ignorant. As if this generation wasn't wildly different from that one, too. >> Correct. >> Yeah. Just generationally. Yeah. >> Okay. Until you moved to America, it was exactly the same for hundreds of years. That's stupid, right? Like even when my mom talks about her parents and how they raised her, completely freaking different. >> So to act like, "Oh, you should preserve it. You should preserve it." What? It's like a romanticized idea. You know what I mean? Like they were so ████ different every generation. >> That's why they say like the countries keep moving and we don't like we're just holding on to our parents' memory of >> Exactly. You're just preserving like one memory of like one era. That's why I
14:22 would love to see a documentary of neck sharkers having to go to their homeland and just getting smoked by the locals. >> They don't have the budget anymore. [laughter] >> But also, there's um not much of the culture. So, they're clawing at the smallest thing. So, for example, if white folks didn't have enough like history and things, then they're just going to claw at like Merlin as the only thing to identify and everyone's going to want to be a vis wizard cuz they're like this is like and then that's really what some people only got. They only got Merlin, you know, >> so it's like >> that's all they got. So that's Imagine a whole culture just based off of one magician. >> It's so insulting to act like it's all the same until America. >> Come on. >> It's so stupid.
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