0:00 I've been really lucky. My My mom's been staying with me for the last couple days. She's going to be here for like 10 days or whatever. >> Oh, really? That's awesome. >> It's huge. It's >> extra hands, huh? >> Hell yeah. >> It's everything. Grandparents are everything. >> Should we go to Sapphire then? [laughter] >> Sapphire. >> Damn, dude. >> But it's funny because uh you know, Nah's very just like, "Oh yeah, dude. Like your mom's great. You should we should bring her out more often type stuff." And like for me it's like it's it's just a it's a different journey for me. You know, it's my mom. And I'm not trying to be, you know, that son that's just all cuz I'm like, it must be so chill for you, Nina. You don't understand Vietnamese. >> Uh, >> cuz like it seems chill cuz you don't understand 90% of what's coming out of her mouth. Meanwhile, I'm just sitting there acting chill. Is she criticizing you a lot of the time? >> But it's like it's not it's not it's mom stuff. It's not like weird bad energy,
0:51 bad intent. It's just like it's like a subconscious like like a yapping that just gets thrown out over everything. It could be the ████ temperature in the room. >> Yeah. It's like a little stab randomly here and there. >> Yeah. But every ████ day, every second. You know what I'm saying? It's very sweet. It's just very like I I did this for a long part of my life already. And it was I was happy to move out. >> Yeah. [laughter] >> You know what I mean? >> I thought it was behind me for a little bit >> and this is your house now. >> Yeah. >> With your baby and your wife, which is completely different. or just, you know, like with like with Nina, if anybody, you know, with moms in general, I think if somebody if somebody tells them how to mom >> Oh, yeah. >> It's like >> it's another battle. >> ████ everybody's already on eggshells with that. So like don't tell any mom how to mom. >> Mhm. >> But man, a mom can come around and >> can't you can't say that though, right? Cuz moms are always >> I know. I know. So you can't tell Nah
1:41 how to mom her kid, but damn, you could tell the dad how to dad his kid. That's for sure. >> You know, and it's just like >> So what are some cool tips she's dropping? her some gems she's dropping. >> It's It's just But here's the funny thing. I realize that when Nah's every single time Nah's mom calls her, I always know Nah's mom's calling her because the ████ way Nina picks up the phone. It's the driest, the shortest, the most zero like love version of like Yeah. >> Uh-huh. But it's like it's also so filled with love. It's so filled with love that you don't need the like the nuances of small talk love. >> Yeah. >> Cuz they talk all the time type. >> Yeah. They just talk all the time. So it's always just like Uh-huh. What? No, I can't do that. Right. Oh, [snorts and clears throat] please. You know, you're just like, "Dude, you're crazy." But I'm I'm just convinced it's so easy cuz when her mom's over for me, it's like ████ the easiest thing in the world. She speaks English, you know? I like to be charismatic son-in-law and
2:32 just have a good time, take care of her, whatever. She loves me. Her mom loves me. I'm convinced that always it's so much easier to get get along with the in-law mom than your own. And that dynamic once you know how to navigate that, especially when it comes to like grandparenting, that's that's the secret unlock because I can't stand my mom, but Nina can't stand her mom. So, mom, but Nina loves my mom being around. >> Ours is the same situation as yours. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. It's the exact same. How about you guys? It's the exact same like this. >> Well, it's like we would rather have my mother-in-law around more. >> Oh, both of you agree. You would rather have your mom around more. >> My mother-in-law. >> Oh, your mother-in-law. >> Her mom. Yeah, Tiff's mom. >> Mine, too. But I get along with Gio's mom >> way better than Gio does with her own mom because of like probably like some
3:24 vice versa, too. Yeah. >> So, like when me and Tiff's mom hang out, like sometimes I'll take her to work and stuff and we'll like chat. We end up just like Yeah. We connect a lot more because we get kind of talk about we talk hell of ████ dude, about Tiff behind her back. We ████ dog her out, dude. And we're like, "Yeah, can you believe what you said to me about this?" >> The roast of Tiff. >> Yeah. I I complain to her. I'm like, "You know what your daughter said to me the other day?" She's like, "What?" I'll tell her. And she's like, "Man, I'mma talk to her while you know, Tiffany." So I >> Yeah. Get her. >> Yeah. Yeah. I'm like, "Thank you. Thank you." >> Is it like is it language barrier for you? >> Oh, my Spanish is perfect, dude. >> No, I'm saying I'm saying like Tiff being able to talk to your mom or anything or or she's like perfect English as well. There's no >> My mom speaks good English. >> Margaret. >> Margaret. But she, you know, >> sometimes it's like cultural stuff that kind of >> misunderstandings could happen or where
4:16 I'm like, "Babe, that's just my mom being Chinese. Don't worry about it." You know? >> What's What's like what's like one of the biggest diversions? Chinese is so ████ hard, man. It's just like for instance I think lat specifically between a Latin family and how much love and how >> so the lack of warmth. >> Yeah. [laughter] The lack of warmth is kind of the default on the Chinese side. You're just like no she doesn't hate you. I swear this is just the fact that she's giving you all this food is like that's that means she really loves you. The pear comes in that like foam thing. She loves you. >> Every week she's like, "Hey, the net. I got you the phone net. I got you these roasted peanuts you've never asked for, but these are for you." That's my mom's way of saying, "Hey, I thought of you.
5:06 Take these. I love like it's cuz I love you." You know? It's like her way of doing that. So, it's like it's things like that where once we do hang out and we are all together, it's all good. But sometimes it's like I have to just make sure that it's very clear of like the rules of engagement of how my mom shows love and just expressing that her to her and like being the mediator between that. >> When you have to do that, do you is it like correction right then and there or do you like have to pull your mom to the side or wait for a convenient? depends on the situation, but it'll be like I'll kind of cuz I feel like for my mom, if I do it right then and there, she gets really reactive and she's like and then she'll shut down. She might go, "Yeah, I don't want to hear it." >> Rather than >> turn into a scene. >> Yeah. It'll like create a thing. So, if I kind of talk to her, you know, like
5:56 another cuz I work out with her, I train her a good amount. So, we get to have conversations every now and then. >> So, we get to like have an hour of just time where no one's on their phone. and we're sitting together and I'm just like asking her about stuff and then we could have those conversations. So, it's like >> And you guys are speaking in English. >> Yeah, that's all I speak unfortunately. >> That's helpful too >> with all my mothers. That's all I speak. It's like it's my default. [laughter] >> I do like it when Gio's mom stays with us and then um like let's say like Gio's being a ████ to me or whatever. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Like uh Gio's mom would kind of like look at me and she was like rare. Yeah. I was like, "Oh, yeah, >> bro. [laughter] >> That's cool." >> But, bro, the best is when Tiff's mom and her sister, they go, "You need to stop being so mean to Nick. You need to leave him alone. Just let him ████ be
6:46 blah blah blah." And I go, "Thank you, so [laughter] that's cool." >> Cuz Gio's mom is always on my side. >> Yeah, bro. ████ [laughter] >> It's the best, bro. >> Like sometimes like it'll be like, you know, like uh cuz she'll catch the snapshot. Maybe I've done 10,000. A stupid example would be like, let's say I've left the toilet seat up 10,000 times, right? But she doesn't know that. [laughter] She just sees Gio walk into the toilet or with a bathroom and go, "Oh my again." And she'll look at me like [laughter] I'm like, "Cool." >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then she'll like come and hug me. She's like, [sighs] "I'm so sorry I did this to you." I'm like, "It's okay, ma. It's okay. [laughter] And then we hear Gio in the other room. Shut the ████ up. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. [laughter] Yeah. Yeah.
7:36 Yeah. Yeah. That's the best, dude. >> I mean, it sucks for Gio. >> Yeah. But it's ████ awesome cuz I'm like, [sighs] >> does Gio just laugh at that or does she actually get pissed off? >> No, she she just laugh. >> Oh, cool. >> That contexting is so fun to play with, though. I feel like only boys play with that. It's like, duh, like your mom loves me because she doesn't know all the things you know about me and duh, nobody's gonna share those things with her, you know, like this is just it. But it's so fun because like, you know, for dudes when you do ████ up, it is way surfaced than how deep chicks take it. So for her to emote in the way that I take it, it makes it feel like like the joke worked, you know, versus like if you're like doing stand up >> and it just bombs. >> So it's cool that like, oh, cool. There's someone else in here that also
8:27 thinks putting the jelly beans back isn't a big deal, >> right? >> And then and for her to be like, I'm like, oh yeah. [laughter] >> My mom be doing this weird thing, too, though. I don't know if you guys get this, but like she really tries to play off like I'm so busy. I got all this stuff to do. It's hard for me to come here. You know what I mean? Like maybe we should like push it off. Like I can't be there that long. >> Is she Does she work or is she retired? She don't do ████ >> bro. She don't >> Why do parents make up ████ That's what they have to do. >> Dude, there was this time she gassed me so hard. This is where I get my gas lighting from. By the way, I ████ realize it's my mom. She's so good at this. >> It's my mom, too, dude. My mom was supposed to come up on like um what's the ████ date? Uh she was I was supposed to drive her up on the 13th. We originally talked about coming up on the 15th, but I was already going to be in LA. So I like let me drive you back with
9:18 us. Just come with us versus riding the Vietnamese bus thing that you do or whatever. Right. It's Asian travel. >> Vietnamese Vegas bus. >> Yeah. Takes like two stops. >> It's fun though. It's fun. >> Sounds kind of fun though. >> It's with the gang. >> But I'm like just come with us. Right. Um she's like okay. My dad even convinces like why are you going by yourself? Just go with them. like you don't need to like just go with them. Like he has a whole separate call with me. They just take her. It's going to be okay. I have a whole separate call with her again. I'm like, "Hey, I'm going to take you on 13th 15th." Yeah. Yeah. I already talked to dad. It's okay. Well, all settled. We're like 3 days out. This is like two weeks ago. We're 3 days out. She's like, "Hey, uh I got a lot of work to do." First of all, ████ Like just what work? You don't work. [laughter] You know, I don't make >> I don't know what version of work a different version of cooking a different You know what I'm saying? like you could figure that. Anyways, anyways, she's like, I work on I'll go up to 15th. For
10:10 me, right, when I found out she was coming 13th, what do I do? I haven't been able to work like with full attention. I immediately booked studio space cuz I got to go choreograph a bunch of stuff. I immediately set up some Zoom meetings and stuff cuz I'm like, I'm not babysitting. I'm going to work. >> It's not vacation rest time. It's like get my ████ done time cuz like this is the only time, right? So, I book everything. I start planning out my week. My mom calls me. She's like, "Hey, I got so much work, too. I'm going to come with the 15th." I was like, "Work? What? Mom, I No, you said you're coming at 13. I'm going to take you up with 13th. I got a bunch of work on Monday that I set up." And I'm like, "What work you got to do?" She's like, "Why did you set up work?" When we first talked about it, I told you I was coming up Tuesday. And I was like, "Oh my god, dude." >> I was like, "Number one, this is where I get it." Number two, [laughter] it doesn't matter. We already talked about I talked about it with that. We
11:00 have three conversations. You said you're coming. I made I made plans on Monday. What's your work versus my work? What's your work, Mom? >> Compare right now. >> She got mad that I called her out on her bluff. She's like, "Fine. Hung up the phone on you." >> Oh, you won, dude. You won. >> You got it. Funny, dude. You guys are >> That's the stuff that Nina won't see, though. Nina sees the non-context. Nina sees, "Oh, wow. She came up >> y >> on on the 13th, >> dude." >> You know what I mean? I'm like, "All right, but there's no point in explaining all this other extra random ████ cuz that's just a every day with your mom. >> Every conversation has a version of that." >> And it's like, "All right, whatever." >> That's so true, though. Cuz Tiff Tiff and her mom have little things like that, too. And like they'll just like all three of the girls will just like fight with each other and they'll be like, "We're not going anywhere." I'm like, "Why not?" Like, "We just got an argument." And I'm like, "All right, cool. Handle."
11:50 >> That's funny. >> They won't do that in front of me though. They'll be on their best behavior and be like, "Oh, everything's fine." You know, like, and I'll be like, "Man, that's actually pretty sweet for me. [laughter] >> That's pretty sick on my end." >> The quickness of how giant plans suddenly are canceled because of a stupid argument via text. That happens. So, >> that's girls, though. That's girls. Girls. >> All girls. >> Always girls. >> The boys will be like, "F███ it. Let's go." >> Yeah. Whatever. >> Yeah. Dads and brothers, >> we arguing. I didn't even know. >> All the boys already know it's ████ Nobody will say anything because we know that given a little bit of time, you guys aren't doing anything on that day that you guys planned anyway, it's still on. You're just mad right now trying to call each other's bluff. You're wy out. And then when you realize that you would rather still go do this activity [laughter] >> once you guys have settled down a little bit >> and nobody apologizes. >> They just show up and it's like, huh? And then everybody complains in their side texts about how, oh my god, shut
12:41 up. Didn't even apologize. But everybody's so chill on the outside. You're like, we're all the same, dude. We all do the same. >> So hard to navigate, man. [laughter] >> Just forgot that like, you know, the more the longer you go without talking to your parents, you get used to the fact that there's a common decency of communication that when someone talks to you, they have like at least a minimum amount of respect, at least a little bit of nuance on like how they say something to you. And then when you talk to your parents again, you realize that these are the two people that just don't give a ████ [laughter] They're just they just say everything mean to you. Yeah. And I'm like, "Oh my god, I forgot about that." [laughter] Cuz that's the only people that do that. >> Like food that comes to you without even being on a plate. [laughter] >> Here's a burger. >> Eat it. >> What the ████ >> You just like forget that someone's there to just like criticize you coldly or just be like, "Why is your house like
13:31 that? Why is this like this?" >> Yeah. You ain't ████ >> You're like, "Oh ████ Damn. [laughter] How come you only have silver coverage for insurance?" >> Yeah. >> What? Nobody wants to have a husband like that. >> Yeah. [laughter] >> Oh god. >> Change your shirt. What is that? [laughter] >> God damn, dude. >> His mom be saying stuff like that to me too. I forget. [laughter] I just come in just like roasting me. >> Yeah. >> You know what my mom said to me the other day? She goes, "You smell [laughter] like >> brush your teeth." Polyester. Was it polyester? >> Yeah. And she goes, "And you're pale." And I go, "Oh." >> And you're pale. >> I go. My mama will do that. should like come and like we go ████ eat breakfast. And he goes, "He needs to gain weight. She needs to lose weight. You need to lose weight, too."
14:21 [laughter] And I'm like, "Damn, in 5 seconds, bro. What the f███?" I was like, "What the hell?" [laughter] >> She takes out a clipboard. She goes, "Complete." >> Perfect. Weighin's complete. >> What are we going to eat, guys? [laughter] I'm like, "What the hell, dude?" >> It hits me so freaking hard, man. It's a It's so triggering, dude.
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